Oxford dictionary defines Gossip as, “Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.” Sadly, gossiping is normal and encouraged in today’s society. There are websites, TV shows and magazines centralized and based on gossiping. The advent and use of social media make finding gossip content even easier. It can actually feel good to gossip. Because it gives us the chance to stop focusing on what may be broken in our own lives and magnify the dysfunction going on in the lives of others. Gossiping can give us a false sense of superiority. Gossiping can make us feel as though our life isn’t as “messed up” as others. For a temporary moment we may feel as though our life, decision- making and circumstances are superior to that of who we gossip about.
Reasons why we talk about others
There are multiple reasons why we may engage in gossiping. We may indulge in gossiping because we feel insecure and talking negatively about others make us feel better about ourselves. If we’ve been hurt by someone, gossiping about them and negatively influencing others perspective of the offender may help us feel vindicated and our feelings validated. There are also times in which we may engage in gossiping because we are bored, idle and not engaged enough in our own lives.
Celebrity gossip is just as bad
I used to be notorious for consuming celebrity gossip. I used to literally start my day by visiting celebrity gossip websites. How sad was that. You could name me a celebrity and I could sprout off all the current “news” about them. I thought the fact that I was gossiping about celebrities was harmless. Because we didn’t know each other personally and they would never know what I said about them. It is true that they didn’t find out what I said and my words did not significantly hurt their careers. But I was surely stunting my own growth. I wasted a lot of time focusing and reading about the lives of celebrities. I could’ve used that time to study the word of God, help someone and prepare for my future.
When presented with the opportunity to engage in gossiping, we have to decide do we want to, “waste our time or speak life, mind our own business and grow”
Father God please forgive me for the times I engaged in gossiping. Please show me the root of why I felt and or feel the need to gossip (insecurity, boredom, anger, hurt etc). Once the root of my desire to gossip is revealed, I pray that you will uproot it, give me the grace to face and address my inner brokenness and heal me for my sanctification and your glory Amen.
1 Timothy 5:13 (ESV)
Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.
Proverbs 18:7-8 (NIV)
The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.