The Waste of Gossiping

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Gossip is so bad but it can seem to make us feel so good

      Oxford dictionary defines Gossip as, “Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.” Sadly, gossiping is normal and encouraged in today’s society. There are websites, TV shows and magazines centralized and based on gossiping. The advent and use of social media make finding gossip content even easier. It can actually feel good to gossip. Because it gives us the chance to stop focusing on what may be broken in our own lives and magnify the dysfunction going on in the lives of others. Gossiping can give us a false sense of superiority. Gossiping can make us feel as though our life isn’t as “messed up” as others. For a temporary moment we may feel as though our life, decision- making and circumstances are superior to that of who we gossip about.

Reasons why we talk about others

      There are multiple reasons why we may engage in gossiping. We may indulge in gossiping because we feel insecure and talking negatively about others make us feel better about ourselves. If we’ve been hurt by someone, gossiping about them and negatively influencing others perspective of the offender may help us feel vindicated and our feelings validated. There are also times in which we may engage in gossiping because we are bored, idle and not engaged enough in our own lives.

Celebrity gossip is just as bad

      I used to be notorious for consuming celebrity gossip. I used to literally start my day by visiting celebrity gossip websites. How sad was that. You could name me a celebrity and I could sprout off all the current “news” about them. I thought the fact that I was gossiping about celebrities was harmless. Because we didn’t know each other personally and they would never know what I said about them. It is true that they didn’t find out what I said and my words did not significantly hurt their careers. But I was surely stunting my own growth. I wasted a lot of time focusing and reading about the lives of celebrities. I could’ve used that time to study the word of God, help someone and prepare for my future.

When presented with the opportunity to engage in gossiping, we have to decide do we want to, “waste our time or speak life, mind our own business and grow”

Prayer

Father God please forgive me for the times I engaged in gossiping. Please show me the root of why I felt and or feel the need to gossip (insecurity, boredom, anger, hurt etc). Once the root of my desire to gossip is revealed, I pray that you will uproot it, give me the grace to face and address my inner brokenness and heal me for my sanctification and your glory Amen.

1 Timothy 5:13 (ESV)

Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.

Proverbs 18:7-8 (NIV)

The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.

 

 

Latoya Williams

You Will Blossom in Due Season

One morning before taking my little ones to school I was fixing their breakfast as usual and my daughter who is 5 approached me and asked for a Danimals yogurt. She and my older son age 4 love Danimals yogurt. I told her she would receive a yogurt in just a moment after I finished preparing her breakfast. Immediately after I gave her my answer she got upset. I asked her if she listened to what I said. I repeated that I was going to give her the yogurt when I was finished preparing her breakfast. I informed her that I was going to give her a yogurt, so there was no need to get upset but she rebutted with ” aww I waited too long “. She only had to wait for approximately 4 mins but to her it was an eternity. I have a greater insight into the concept of time, so I knew in reality she only waited a short while. She was not interested in the fact that I was preparing her a nutritious breakfast that would sustain her and help her to grow. All she was concerned about in that moment was retrieving her yummy yogurt treat.Our interaction reminded me of how we interact with God sometimes. There are times we may bemoan God’s process of maturity for our lives and demand our desired outcome/treat now! We want dessert (our version of success) before or without ever having our nutrition (time of development). Successes are fun and can give us a spark of joy and they are a blessing, but they hardly provide us with the nutrition we need to be sustained and to grow. Our time of Godly development will produce fruit that will long outlast the fruition of our goals coming to pass.

You may be at a place in life in which you feel stuck in a rut or that you are not progressing as much and as fast as you desire but be encouraged. As long as you hold on to God’s unchanging hand and follow his guidance you will reach the expected end, he has for you in his perfect timing. It may feel like it is taking forever but God has a deeper insight into the concept of time, and he knows that our time of waiting is but for a short while in light of eternity. Even though it may not feel like it, the time spent in development is a loving blessing from God. God’s maturation process will help us grow more into the beautiful image of his son Jesus Christ which is far more valuable than any earthly good or experience.

Philippians 1:6 (NLT)
And I am certain that God, who began the good work
within you, will continue his work until it is finally
finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.

Psalm 92:12-15 (NIV)

12 The righteous will flourish like a palm tree,
they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon;
13 planted in the house of the Lord,
they will flourish in the courts of our God.
14 They will still bear fruit in old age,
they will stay fresh and green,
15 proclaiming, “The Lord is upright;
he is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in him.”

Prayer

Thank you, Lord for gifting us with your appointed time of development. Please give us the grace to be hopeful, patient and compliant while you prepare us for your ordained purpose for our lives.

 

 

Latoya Williams